Mind Mastery

Why is it that you trust your parents to look after your car when you go away, but you wouldn't be able to leave your car on the street because you don't trust your neighbours not to break or steal it?

Why don't you trust others enough to be able to leave your door unlocked?

Why can you trust a good friend to help you move house when you ask them?

Why can't you trust people enough to be able to leave your wallet on a table somewhere?

How is it that you trust your partner not to cheat on you?

Are animals capable of trust?

How about machines, can a computer trust? Why or why not?

Can a baby or child trust?

What is trust?

Real trust is built upon
1. Relationship
2. History
3. Faith

Do you really trust someone if you must have them sign a contract?

If you must make a law about every single detail of life, does this show trust in others ability to be grown ups or distrust?

You trust others on the road based upon faith in their abilities to operate vehicles. 

Faith is blind belief, trust without knowing. 

Which can be useful and problematic, depending on the circumstances. 

You don't actually know what their personal skills are but you do have a history of dealing with them.

You have experience coming up to a stop light and cars behind you stopping. 

You are able to go through an intersection without crashing.

You don't have a history with those people specifically and no personal relationship, but you do have history of people in general on the road being reliable enough for you to feel safe enough to also be on the road.

This is mainly faith in your history of peoples ability on the road is reliable enough for you to trust them.

When you first start driving on the road, it's pure faith as you have no history.

You trust your friends to meet you at a certain time because you have a relationship with them and a history so you trust they will honour the agreement.  

You can drop a rock to the ground 10 times, then based on that history, you can trust that it will happen 11th time.

No need for faith or a personal reltionship with a rock to be able to trust it to behave in a certain way.

If you watch a course online and then they want to sell you something, you may buy because you trust them, because they have built a relationship with you, without even meeting you.

Relationship trust is based upon someones character.

The better you know someone, the better their character, the more likely you are to trust someone.

Add in a history of experiences, this elevates trust even more.

You didn't buy the course because of blind faith, you had heard the person speak, seen their face, felt their energy and emotionally and logically rationalised that you could trust them enough to buy whatever they were selling.

A great way to build and demonstrate trust between people is in situations where it would be easy to break trust.

If the other person had an opportunity to betray you for personal gain, and didn't, this really puts trust to the test and proves it is real.

An example of using only faith to trust someone would be how many people trust a particular politician.

The politician is caught out lying constantly, (take your pick they are all the same) so therefore does not have a history you can trust.

The political supporter does not have a personal relationship with the politician and the politician is not showing any trust worthy attributes or good character like the course seller.

They only vote for the politician because of blind faith.

This can be said for most religions also, which they willingly admit.

All real trust is based upon these 3 elements. 

Without any of these, there is no trust. 

Trust can also be based upon just one of these elements.

The more you have, the more trust there is. 

With all 3 elements working together to provide evidence why you should trust, the stronger that trust shall be.

When you trust someone else, you have agreements with them. 

An agreement is a promise to do or not do something at a certain place at a certain time or for a certain period. 

If the agreement is broken, you may lose trust in the other party and not want to trust them again.

That's why the highest levels of trust have to be earned via deeds and actions.

Ultimately, trust is always based upon faith as you can never know for sure 100% what another living being will or won't do and accidents can happen. 

The better the history, the better the relationship, the more faith you have. 

Even dropping the rock, it may fall to the ground 10,000,000 times, but then all of a sudden it doesn't because something changes, so even something which seems so reliable, such as the physical laws of nature, are based upon a degree of faith.

Fake trust is based upon contracts.

Not an ethical 7 pointed contract, but the typical unethical or sub-optimal type.

A contract is different to an agreement as there are terms and conditions for entering and exiting the contract, which can normally be "legitimately" enforced by those who are outside of the signatories of the contract, to the detriment of the one who breaks a contract, regardless of who is right or wrong.

If you signed a contract to work a job for 12 months, but had to leave after 2 months because the boss was a ruler and not a leader, the boss may be able to enforce some kind of legal action against you, in today's corrupt world.

Why the need for contracts?

Because of a lack of true trust.

One only requires a contract when there is no relationship, meaning there has been no genuine connection or likeability. 

There has been a lack of authenticity between one or more parties, thus the requirement of a contract. 

When both parties are authentic and genuine, no contract is required, because there is trust, which is faith based on good will, the relationship and history. 

You don't have your friends and family sign contracts to be able to trust them do you?

Another reason to use a contract is when there is no history with that man or woman, they don't know anything about the other party. 

It may be unwise to trust another when there is no personal history or even 3rd party history of good will to base your trust upon. 

That's why people use contracts, because they don't want to investigate or discover the history of the other party.

Or there is simply no faith in their abilities to uphold an agreement.

Which is distrust, thus why people use contracts, because they believe the other party cannot be trusted to uphold their word, so essentially they must use fear of breaking the terms and conditions and fear of having enforcement action taken against them.

Agreements are always based on trust and are upheld through desire to be trustworthy.

Contracts are more often than not based on distrust and are enforced through fear and punishment.

When you trust yourself, it's because you have built a strong relationship through experience, you also have a history of evidence, demonstrating you keeping your word to yourself.

You build confidence and trust in yourself by keeping the promises you make to yourself.

You do what you say and say what you do.

You have to tell yourself the truth if you are to trust yourself and have any kind of healthy relationship with the most important person in the world, yourself.

Now, some may say that they would die for their children or partner, that they are more important then they are.

This is an honourable thing to do in certain circumstances.

But how would you be able to do this if you did not trust yourself to do so?

If you had an unhealthy relationship with yourself, you wouldn't trust yourself because you hadn't given yourself a reason to.

Then if a time came to die protecting your family, as an extreme example, how could you trust yourself to follow through?

You couldn't.

That's why you're the most important person in the world in your life, because if you aren't, then you're no good to anyone.

How can others trust you if you don't trust yourself?

If you can't trust yourself, you can't respect yourself.

If you aren't able to do the things you say you're going to do or deep down really want to do, then you are emotionally killing yourself.

You are showing yourself that you canno't be trusted, and anyone who cannot be trusted, including yourself, cannot be respected.

If you can't be trusted or respected, what good are you?

What worth do you have to anyone?

Humans have an abundance of defensive mechanisms to block the truth, so they may develop and over inflated 'ego' to compensate.

Of they absorb themself in the external material world where they don't have to consider their personal self realtionship.

Distraction is simpler in the moment than facing the truth.

Can you trust yourself to do the right thing in a situation that demands you must choose between the right or wrong course of action?

Breaking self trust is the most effective way to become a coward.

Because you fear your own judgement more than anything else, you will pretend and do everything you can to not face your own wrath.

You would prefer to hide in darkness and the shadows of your true potential then shine your light of consciousness on the truth of who you are, not your egos perception of yourself. 

If you do trust yourself, then you have unlocked your unlimited potential, you have become unstoppable.

You will do what you trust is right, even if there are 7 billion people who are untrustworthy cowards who stand in your way doing the wrong thing.

When you stand against all odds and don't flinch, even the weight of the entire world can't stop you.

With that much self trust, you set an example of what it means to be trustworthy.

When you trust yourself so much that you have the confidence to tell the entire world they are wrong and you are right, that trust and confidence becomes infectious.

If you trust yourself that much, surely there is a reason for it.

By being able to trust yourself, you demonstrate to others that you are trustworthy.

It's hard to trust someone who doesn't trust themself.

It's easy to trust someone else who trusts themself. 

If you stick with what is right, others can't help but join you.

Every time you test your own trust or others test it for you, you become more powerful and more trsutworthy.

The more trust you have, the more respect you also have.

The more trust, the more confidence.

The more confidence, the happier you are.

Learn to trust yourself by doing what you say you will do and by doing what you actually want to do.

As you become trustworthy, you teach others the meaning of trust.

When you do this, you inspire them to start learning how to trust themselves and in return, you are able to trust them more deeply.